Well, my 3 year old grandchild just left and refused to give me a hug or a kiss because Grammy is a meanie. I can’t help it, I simply cannot abide a child of any age who won’t mind. As the mother of 6, it’s always been my view that the adults are the ones who are supposed to be in control, not the children. That doesn’t mean you have to always be quick to spank, but, you definitely have to set parameters for behavior. When you tell a child that they need to do something, you have to train them that there are consequences if they don’t follow instructions.
Children are very quick to sense when an adult means what they say. They’re equally as quick in sensing that someone is all talk and no action. Today, Mommy was all talk and Grammy took over. I sent Mommy out of the room, closed the door and had a heart to heart with my granddaughter.
It didn’t require a spanking, it took a firm voice and the reminder of the fact that I mean what I say. I don’t count to 10 anymore. I tell them no and expect them to respect that. It’s not too difficult as long as you’re consistent.
When my own children were young, I used to count to 3. I remember it got to the point that I didn’t even have to say 1-2-3 out loud, I only had to hold up my fingers. I find that it doesn’t work with the grandchildren. If their parents count to 3, or 5, or 10 and there are no consequences, it isn’t fair for me to do it because they simply won’t understand the change in rules.
1 meant you were in trouble
2 meant you were on really thin ice
3 meant God help you cause Mom was through playing around
It seemed to work pretty well. I have no impact on what happens with my children’s children in their homes, but, when they come to Grammy’s they have to behave cause Grammy’s a meanie!
What do you dislike most about children who won’t behave?