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The importance of dates February 27, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — auntlelo @ 7:21 pm

My husband and I have been married for 15 years and the time has literally flown by. As they say, time flies when you’re having fun. Some people might wonder how two people could describe as fun going to work every day, raising six kids on a tight budget and trying to fit in all of the other things that active people do. Well, it is fun. It’s the most fun you can have when you’re married to your best friend.

Something we’ve always found very important is taking the time to have a date now and then. Back when the kids were small and still at home, we didn’t have two nickels to rub together. A date consisted of an hour or so of leaving the kids with Grandma and Grandpa, stopping for an ice cream cone and taking a short drive. We used to look forward to those moments as much as some people look forward to a gourmet meal and a concert! We had some of our best conversations and greatest laughs on those little drives.
Why are dates so important to a marriage? I’ve seen so many people who have turned their focus and attention on the children, their jobs and their social obligations only to let their marriage die by simple neglect. It’s hard to know someone if you don’t spend time with them. It’s hard to love someone if you don’t know them. My husband and I have a strange and wonderful connection. When I’m thinking something, he says it out loud. We finish each others sentences. When I see him looking for something, I usually can just find it and hand it to him without asking what he’s looking for. I can tell his mood by the expressions on his face.

My husband doesn’t send me flowers. He’s not much for flowery language either. But he does what is considered the most romantic things of all after 15 years of marriage. He runs the vaccuum, helps with the laundry, clears the dinner table and cleans the bathroom. And most importantly, he gives me gifts that will last a lifetime; he builds me furniture. There is a spicerack that’s hung on my kitchen wall for 15 years that was a wedding gift. He made baby cradles and cribs and a high chair. Our house is full of antique reproduction furniture that he’s built. The most recent addition is a 9.5 foot harvest table that seats 12. He built it so that I could have a table big enough for all of our 6 children and, eventually, their husbands and wives to sit at and have family dinners. That’s love.

So, back to point of this rambling post. Dates are more important after you get married than before. After all, what’s better than spending an hour or two with your best friend? Make it a priority. You’ll be glad you did.

Do you have any great date memories to share?


One Response to “The importance of dates”

  1. Niki Says:

    On my first date with Matt, we baked sugar cookies (the ones from a tube of dough procured from the refrigerator section of the grocery store) and watched Saturday Night Live on his papasan couch. I think I fell asleep on Matt’s arm about 20 minutes into SNL. We were both so happy and content. We have had “fancy” dress-up sort of dates over the past 11 years, but they were always disappointing. The best ones are just like that first one. 🙂

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